Danger signs of online dating
Maggie from New York City specified in her profile that she wanted to meet someone between the ages of twenty-five and thirty-five who lived in Manhattan, so receiving emails from sixty-five-year-old men who lived a hundred miles away was not amusing.
If you’re dating a person and you’ve never heard anything about how they pay for things or how comfortable they are with their financial situation, that might be a warning sign. Having a common viewpoint about money is a key aspect to being happy with a partner. Even if you’ve heard general mention of friends, you should be concerned if you haven’t ever seen any of them (if you’re not in a long distance situation) or if the other person has kept their social circle completely vague.
These white lies are fairly harmless, but keep an eye out for signs of a larger deception.
FBI profiler Mary Ellen O’Toole, who worked on notorious cases such as the Green River Killer and the hunt for the Unabomber, advises online daters to pay attention to the wording used in dating profiles.
This issue arises most often when you’re in a long-distance relationship with someone. A lot of times when you meet people on the Internet, it’s very easy for them to pick and choose which things they want you to know. Or, if they do, they are very vague about who their friends are or what they do with their friends.
Usually when you meet someone on the Internet who lives far away, you will first converse via email, then you’ll talk on the phone, and finally you’ll set up some type of rendezvous. Or, how do you know they don’t have another girlfriend or boyfriend (or two or three . So, for example, they might only want to talk about certain topics (e.g., music, art and working out) while they are very reluctant to discuss other things. Are they just about those certain things or is there a lot more you don’t know about them? If you are a woman and the man you’ve been talking to keeps telling you about his “friend” Monica with whom he goes out to the movies but about whom he is otherwise vague, you need to probe him about it. Another red flag that someone you’ve met on the Internet isn’t who or what they claim to be, is if they don’t invite you to their home after you’ve been dating for awhile. The next warning sign would be to look at another aspect of someone not giving you the complete picture of themselves.
Remember the four things that sociopaths do: Making the assessment stage easy On line dating, is for the sociopath, easy pickings.